A Strain on the Friendship
Sitting in that living room, I was angry. I was in my friend's house to play the Wii U with Toby, Wilson, and Andrew. I won't disclose my host's name for deference, but let it be known that I am enraged at him. Toby, Wilson, my friend, and I were playing Mario Party 9. We were playing this minigame which involved punching each other off a platform into the lava. Because we were all saints, we decided that we should all win first place by doing nothing. We waited for the timer to count down and by the thirty-second mark I was bored and started jumping around. Then he punched me off. I was this close to throwing the controller at him. I watched in horror as Toby and Wilson tried to avenge me but suffered the same fate I did. My friend won and did this victory dance while Toby, Wilson, and I were threatening to collaborate against him. Super Smash Bros. has nothing compared to Mario Party. When he won at the end, I swore to carry this grudge to my grave.
Friendship is such a fragile thing when you consider it. Maybe not as precarious as a marriage but close. Friendship allows people to see all the flaws of other people. Friendship allows for bonds to occur and for people to have a good time together. But friends can have conflicting personalities which can drive a rift between them. As we become more shrewd, we decide to choose our best friends based on personality and nostalgic memories. Friendship is the ubiquitous force on earth that forms bonds.
Friendship was essential for primitive men. People couldn't survive without more companions for protection and for hunting. Individuals who revered their individuality were killed. It became essential for people to group together. This common bond between them was based on the need for survival. They didn't question trivial matters like personality. They existed to survive and propagate the species.
Now, survival isn't a main priority. The main priority is to find a job, get married, and other matters that may seem alien to primitive men. We are free to choose who we want to be friends with. Growing up, this was an essential part of growth because being alone was unbearable. That's why home-schooled kids seem queer. The social impact of friends is key since it sets the stage for future relationships. Students are always part of groups that prompted us to learn socially by having arguments or starting simple conversations.
Friendship doesn't last forever though. As soon as people hit college, they can easily lose track of "unimportant" friends. Thus, only true friends that they covet become life-long friends. College rarely introduces friends outside of the roommates. College is mostly about either working hard or blowing everything off. Most people in college are merely acquaintances.
Once people go to jobs, they have a lukewarm relationship with most co-workers and bosses. Some friendships blossom, but it never becomes too personal. Friendship is about knowing almost everything about the friends and sacrificing many principles just to meet eye-to-eye with them. Most people barely have any long-term friends which they frequently invite over to their house for meetings. These friends are gems compared to the rest of mankind.
We come to our final leg of the journey. There are few friends that a person knows intimately. Marriages also tend to fray friendships due to responsibilities. A married man social life usually consists of his wife, his children, and the few friends he has. In such a wide community you're in, do you truly know everyone in it? Do you bother to know everyone? Or do you prefer to stick to your small social circle?
In Eastern countries, there is a connection that binds communities together. This might result from different personalities, the poverty, or any other source. But most people know each other and can hold a conversation. Why is it that our modern country has such few friendships as compared to these countries which we claim to be inferior? Are we too short-sighted?
True friendship is rare now. People prefer to stay in their houses all day. What does that say about our society now? Is friendship a lost art? Friendship is beyond our grasp now and we like it that way.
Friendship was essential for primitive men. People couldn't survive without more companions for protection and for hunting. Individuals who revered their individuality were killed. It became essential for people to group together. This common bond between them was based on the need for survival. They didn't question trivial matters like personality. They existed to survive and propagate the species.
Now, survival isn't a main priority. The main priority is to find a job, get married, and other matters that may seem alien to primitive men. We are free to choose who we want to be friends with. Growing up, this was an essential part of growth because being alone was unbearable. That's why home-schooled kids seem queer. The social impact of friends is key since it sets the stage for future relationships. Students are always part of groups that prompted us to learn socially by having arguments or starting simple conversations.
Friendship doesn't last forever though. As soon as people hit college, they can easily lose track of "unimportant" friends. Thus, only true friends that they covet become life-long friends. College rarely introduces friends outside of the roommates. College is mostly about either working hard or blowing everything off. Most people in college are merely acquaintances.
Once people go to jobs, they have a lukewarm relationship with most co-workers and bosses. Some friendships blossom, but it never becomes too personal. Friendship is about knowing almost everything about the friends and sacrificing many principles just to meet eye-to-eye with them. Most people barely have any long-term friends which they frequently invite over to their house for meetings. These friends are gems compared to the rest of mankind.
We come to our final leg of the journey. There are few friends that a person knows intimately. Marriages also tend to fray friendships due to responsibilities. A married man social life usually consists of his wife, his children, and the few friends he has. In such a wide community you're in, do you truly know everyone in it? Do you bother to know everyone? Or do you prefer to stick to your small social circle?
In Eastern countries, there is a connection that binds communities together. This might result from different personalities, the poverty, or any other source. But most people know each other and can hold a conversation. Why is it that our modern country has such few friendships as compared to these countries which we claim to be inferior? Are we too short-sighted?
True friendship is rare now. People prefer to stay in their houses all day. What does that say about our society now? Is friendship a lost art? Friendship is beyond our grasp now and we like it that way.
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